There are some days where I know I am the last person people want to talk to. Not because I am rude or mean. Primarily because they know I don’t mind being hated.
I really am not that bad of a person. My few friends and family can attest to my kindness. However, without a skip in their beat, they will let you know that I am not as wonderful to speak as your “close” friends that nod and agree with most everything you say.
I must say, I have embraced being hated and ran with it.
Why would you want to be hated
Hatred may be too strong of a word. Let’s go with dislike. People dislike discussing things with me because they know I will disagree.
Society has found itself in a place where it is more common to agree with the majority for lack of effort in establishing interesting discussion.
Most of the things I say may be factually incorrect when I am disagreeing with someone, but that is known. My counterparts know I don’t think the sky is purple, but they, usually, can’t get over the fact that I would make such an odd claim. The reasoning is that by breaking this social norm, I have changed the smooth flow of life at that moment into one where predictability is anything but present.
The reason I want to be hated is because being hated means people disagree with you. I love it when people disagree with me. This action tends to bring about reasoning within discussion and argument.
If me being hated leads to more people having rational discussions with reason and purpose, please do…hate away.
Try being hated
What kind of conversations do you have now? Are they captivating and enthralling? Or do they tend to just be you agreeing with your friends or families with little back and forth about the significance of whatever you are talking about?
I have a feeling that most of us are not having conversations that actually stimulate the brain.
The less you stimulate the brain with banter with another, the more creative and productive you will be in other aspects of your life as well.
The next time you are having any conversation at all, try disagreeing with whatever the other person is saying. Whether it is about how awesome the dinner they had was or what kind of flooring is best, just disagree with everything that they say. Then follow it with questioning as to why that which you are discussing is right or wrong. It might sound like a stupid exercise, but works every time. The more you practice this, the greater the discussion will become. Not only that, you future conversations will improve as well.
Being hated isn’t the worst thing in the world when you know you are making it a much more intriguing place to be by being that hated individual.
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Hey, I had to laugh.
While I love to feel validated in my life. I do hate boring conversation, and
choose to forgo it.
When it comes to close family, I do speak my mind. My daughter, and
I tend to disagree often. It truly is frustrating to her. She might not talk
to me for a day or two. Then she is right back at it.
I have told her so many times. We are two unique individuals, why should we think just alike? I find I have to try to boost her confidence
in her choices, even if I don’t agree with them. LOL I know that is humorous but, I want her to be a confident women.
I struggle with this like your daughter Betty.
My father and I are stubborn and see things very differently. It can be tough to brush away, but I do my best to move past differences.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts Betty!
David Damron
LifeExcursion